Fanning the *Spark*

So I have been having a ball at new job,have found a good group of friends there that love to party as much as me.
Its been 7 conseccutive days of partying and house parties and having fun!And anybody who knows me knows that I am the kind who loves to partay!

This brings me to my husband,who in absolute contrast he is the stay -at- home,sip on his scotch and relax kinda guy,hates crowds and hates having to make conversation with people.But I must admit he has come along with me for mannnnny parties and guess what! 2 beers down and he has ended up dancing as well :).

So now for the past few days my late nites and the fact that I have found a crowd to hang out with has reduced the quality time both of us spend with each other and I don't know why but I feel guilty about that :(

He is the silent strong type and no he has never complained,even when he called me at 2:30 a.m the other nite and I told him we were on our way to The Leela Palace for coffee!!

Anyhow to cut a long story short I planned out a romantic nite for him yesterday and even though he didnt say it I could just see how happy he was to see me home (I was supposed to be out for a movie) :) :)
I absolutely needed to see that in his eyes because after 3 years you do tend to take each other for granted!

So herez to keeping that spark alive and striving to making it work!Nobody said it was going to be easy :)

Tagged by Pooh :)

So my first tag on my blog :) and it makes perfect sense that my dear friend would tag me :) so here goes :)

1. If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be? Hummmnn....cant say that's ever happened to me,I m quite the catch :) lol but seriously I should kick myself for getting involved with someone like that in the first place!


2. If you can have a dream to come true, what would it be? To take a years vacation and travel the world..(did I forget in "First class".


3. What is the one thing most hated by you? Male Chauvinist Pigs!


4. What would you do with a billion dollars? Invest it carefully for Saarika :)


5. Could you fall in love with your best friend? Well I made the guy I fell in love with double up as my best friend...dunno which came first like the chicken and egg story :) :)


6. Which is more blessed, loving someone or being loved by someone? How can you even choose!!Both give you such a different high :) :)


7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you really love? Doesn't really matter now does it ;)


8. If the person you secretly like is already attached, what would you do? Its like the Fast track ad...MOVE ON! (And yes Poorni we do think the same :) :) :) )


9. If you'd like to act (movies, stage) with someone, who would it be? Bradley Cooper....act,love,live...anything with him!


10. What do you expect of your loved one? I don't believe in expecting anything of them if I love them :)


11. How would you see yourself in ten years time? A good mom and a hot wife with a great career going :)


12. What’s your fear? The thought that the people I love are not going to be around forever.


13. Would you rather be single and rich or married, but poor? Well I am married and not exactly poor so I guess I managed to get the best of both :) :) :) 


14. What’s the first thing you do when you wake up? Oh I don't wake up,am woken up by Ram when he says goodbye(before leaving for work),and I promptly go back to sleep again :) until my alarm rings that is :)


15. Do you ever hold back in a relationship? I am quite a private person so I guess to some extent I do hold back :)


16. If you fell in love with two people simultaneously, how would you pick? Again that would not happen to me,coz if I love someone I wudnt be able to make time for anyone else :) at least not enough time to fall in love with them!


17. Would you forgive and forget no matter how horrible a thing that special someone has done? I try not to forget but I end up forgetting :(


18. What are your three most important expectations in love? Unconditional loving,100% Commitment and Honesty

The pleasure of being home alone :)

So whats prompted this blog of mine?(Seems to me I never write for the love of writing itself,all my blogs are prompted!huummm....lets discuss that another time :) )

So Ram's out of town this weekend on work,and will be getting back only Monday morning,which gives me the house to myself for the WHOLE weekend :) and I love it!

I have always been like that, I love/adore my own space,the pleasure of walking into an empty house kicking off your shoes,raiding the fridge and then settling back to watch tv(with no one to fight you for the remote) is heaven! :)

I remember when I was in school in, a time before cell phones and multiple TV's in one house, I used to roll up a bedspread and head to the terrace sometime late in the evening and just lie back and watch the stars :) it was again my space, my time and just me :)

That being said I am not devoid of human emotion :) I love being around friends and family and would hate to be alone EVERY weekend,but every once in a while getting to do my own thing is pretty awesome :)

Like last weekend when I was home alone I woke up late put together a lil brunch for myself and then drove myself to a mall for some retail therapy,caught up with a good friend and her adorable son(my gps system led me right to her doorstep :) :) it really is a most useful thing),picked up dinner,headed home watched an episode of desperate housewives and crashed out :) :)

Felt good to be out doing my own thing because of late I had begun to notice that I was dependent on Ram for waaaay too many things,it had reached a point where I felt awkward if I had to do things alone!(even grocery shopping!...I know I had it bad!).

And I realized with a jolt that just not the kind of person I am :) but I guess marriage does that to you and I m not complaining ,just amused :)

So anyway I make a conscious effort now to get my me time and most importantly make an effort to do things on my own like paying the phone bills or meandering through narrow lanes of an unknown area to send a parcel rather than hand it over to Ram and beg him to go do the dirty work :),or sorting out my Airtel bill mix up without running to him :)

Because like Ram rightly pointed out ( when I said I love being home alone),there is no point being home alone just to have fun and relax you need to manage the things that go along with it :)

So herez to my effort of.. well....not being a lazy bum and enjoying my time at home along with its responsibility :)

Getting back to work!

So to start off I m pretty new to this blogging thing and the reason I thought of starting is because I went for this interview and the guy asked me in quite the matter of fact tone "So you have a blog rite?" and I had to go "ummn No,not because I cant write but because I didn't get the time"...lol...needless to say it didnt look like he believed me!(Still waiting to hear back on that interview btw!)
Anyway I am starting to think that blogging is pretty much the new facebook...I mean if you didnt get enough space to write what you are upto in the "Whats on your mind column" then you go ahead and blog your heart out :) Hahahhaha just kidding :) Coz some of my friends write lovely blogs and ones that are such a pleasure to read :)

Lets hope my endeavor turns out the same way :)

My life in a nutshell:

Completed my MBA from the Amrita School of Business,got placed in a  reputed MNC,did a little thing like getting married in between and so quit the job and moved to a new city Bangalore! and started job hunting there,landed a job within a week that I loved and stayed at for 2.5 years :),did a little thing like have a baby in between :) the most gorgeous lil baby girl,Saarika :)

So anyway for the first time since I finished my studies I quit my job and decided I wanted to be a stay at home mom :) so the month of  Saarika's birthday i.e September 2010 I quit and Saarika moved bag and baggage  to Bangalore (She was staying with my mom in Cochin before that).

What ensued then was the 3 a.m feedings,life revolving around the maid and the cook and diapers and milk powder.Of coz the other side was having a warm little bundle next to me and even though she slept in her crib that was joined to the side of our bed she invariably sought out my pillow and by morning there we were, both  heads on the same pillow,under the same quilt :)

Before I knew it 6 months were gone and lil Saarika had grown!I must say she is the most accommodating baby,no tantrums,no crankiness and if you take her out to a mall she becomes the happiest baby ever! :)

Anyway after 6 months of staying at home I realized the stay at home mom bit is not me,I love Saarika and I want to be with her but I need some intellectual conversation through the day,I need my own money to feel independent and most importantly I din't want her growing up thinking moms stay at home and thats whats expected of her!

I want her to be an extremely independent girl(yes so I am a bit of a feminist,sue me :)!) who does not have to sacrifice her job to raise her family and why?...coz I plan to be a mom exactly like my mom,who will sacrifice anything to give me the best of both worlds :)

She looks after Saarika better than I could ever look after her,pampers her more than I ever could and has let her husband go off to Africa all alone and fend for himself just so she can stay back and look after my baby :)

I only hope I can do this for Saarika some day so that when she grows up and has to make a difficult decision I can be there for her, no matter what choice she makes,to make sure she can have her cake and eat it too :) :) :) with the cherry thrown in for good measure :)